Frankly, I was not quite sure what I was looking for in a relationship until I got into my first serious one. Before that, I knew that I did not want kids or to get married (well, I suppose that takes care of #18: Getting married and having kids), but now I might sway on the marriage decision. As for more general relationship stuff, I was looking for someone who respected me, first and foremost. I don't believe I can truly love someone if I don't respect them. I believe this so strongly that if I had to choose between everyone in the world loving me or respecting me, I would choose respect. Also, here are my five must-haves in a partner:
1) Decent and honest. This means that they don't get in trouble with the law. They don't lie, cheat, or steal, and they are not manipulative or petty.
2) Respectful. Something I mentioned before, but my partner has to respect not just me, but my friends and family, and especially wait staff. They don't have to like or get along with all of them, but respect people who are important to me (and yes, wait staff are important to me).
3) Open-minded. Dear lord, I can't stress this enough. I would really love to be with someone who is open to new ideas and new experiences, someone who listens to other people's viewpoints and takes them into consideration. This also means someone who is willing to revise their own viewpoints in light of new evidence and not just hold on to their own beliefs. Lastly, it refers to someone who is willing to try new foods, go new places, and do new things.
4) I forgot, but I'll put it up as soon as I remember it.
5) Dark hair and dark eyes. These are the only physical traits I really like, evident in the fact that every guy I have ever liked has had dark hair and dark eyes. Maybe it's just my culture or what I grew up with. Maybe it's just what I'm conditioned to like, but I definitely like them with dark hair and dark eyes, preferably brown eyes. Aside from that, they have varied in every other variable: height, weight, race, personality, lifestyle, body size and shape, educational level, background, etc.
As for smaller things, I just want someone I can have great conversations with and who can show interest in my interests. They don't need to like them, but it would be nice if they could have some polite interest or at least not put down my hobbies and passions. It would be nice just to have someone I can spend lazy days with and interaction between us can be easy. I hope that's not too much to ask. So far, my current boyfriend fits this pretty well. :)
I'll probably go back to this list and revise/update as time goes by. Stay tuned for changes!
1) Decent and honest. This means that they don't get in trouble with the law. They don't lie, cheat, or steal, and they are not manipulative or petty.
2) Respectful. Something I mentioned before, but my partner has to respect not just me, but my friends and family, and especially wait staff. They don't have to like or get along with all of them, but respect people who are important to me (and yes, wait staff are important to me).
3) Open-minded. Dear lord, I can't stress this enough. I would really love to be with someone who is open to new ideas and new experiences, someone who listens to other people's viewpoints and takes them into consideration. This also means someone who is willing to revise their own viewpoints in light of new evidence and not just hold on to their own beliefs. Lastly, it refers to someone who is willing to try new foods, go new places, and do new things.
4) I forgot, but I'll put it up as soon as I remember it.
5) Dark hair and dark eyes. These are the only physical traits I really like, evident in the fact that every guy I have ever liked has had dark hair and dark eyes. Maybe it's just my culture or what I grew up with. Maybe it's just what I'm conditioned to like, but I definitely like them with dark hair and dark eyes, preferably brown eyes. Aside from that, they have varied in every other variable: height, weight, race, personality, lifestyle, body size and shape, educational level, background, etc.
As for smaller things, I just want someone I can have great conversations with and who can show interest in my interests. They don't need to like them, but it would be nice if they could have some polite interest or at least not put down my hobbies and passions. It would be nice just to have someone I can spend lazy days with and interaction between us can be easy. I hope that's not too much to ask. So far, my current boyfriend fits this pretty well. :)
I'll probably go back to this list and revise/update as time goes by. Stay tuned for changes!
Sounds like a pretty reasonable and respectable list. I'm glad your relationship is going well. =D
ReplyDeleteHygiene! I suddenly remembered the fourth one! The guy's gotta have good hygiene or I'm like, "Gross" and "Outta here." And by hygiene, I just mean like basic hygiene--the guy brushes his teeth and showers regularly and washes his hands after he uses the restroom. Nothing big. I'm amazed at the amount of people who don't do this, but then again, I AM a germophobe.
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